Don’t be a judge
Don’t compare or label children, the biggest cause of sibling rivalry!
Instead DESCRIBE – “Describe what you see. Describe what you like. Or decribe what you don’t like. Or describe what needs to be done. The important thing is to stick with the issue of this one child’s behavior. Nothing his brother (or sister) is or isn’t doing has anything to do with him.” – Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish (Siblings without Rivalry)
Love each childs uniqueness
Be a mediator – how to mediate. describe what you see, listen to both points of view and state the problem without accusations or feeling. Leave them to find a solution. eg.